In 2018, I found myself at a very low point. I had just turned 27 and I wasn’t married. That may not seem like a crisis to everyone, but for me, it felt like a personal heartbreak. I couldn’t understand why God wasn’t answering my prayers. I had been faithful, prayerful, and hopeful—yet nothing seemed to change.

What made it harder was seeing my peers—close friends and cousins—getting married one after another. It was like everyone else’s prayers were being answered while mine seemed to be stuck in heaven’s waiting room. I didn’t dare ask God “why,” but deep down, I was confused, hurt, and even angry.

That anger festered. I became withdrawn. I stopped going to church. Depression slowly crept in, and I began to feel like God had overlooked me. I thought to myself, “I’m a child of God—shouldn’t that count for something? Don’t I *deserve* to be married by now?”

Then came a turning point.

One morning, I knelt to pray—broken, desperate, and in tears. I had exhausted all my options. I had done everything I knew to do. Nothing worked. But that morning, in my weakest moment, I chose to pray one more time. I poured out my heart before God.

And then, in the middle of my tears, I heard a question so clear it stopped me in my tracks:

“Why do you want to get married?”

I froze. It was as if heaven had thrown the question right back at me.

I paused and thought deeply. Why *did* I want to get married so badly?

To my surprise, I couldn’t come up with a genuine answer beyond the societal expectations and personal desires. There was nothing rooted in purpose. Nothing aligned with God's Kingdom. Just my own wants.

Then a scripture came to mind:  

Matthew 6:33 – “Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

That was the moment my perspective shifted. I realized that marriage was never meant to be just about me. It was meant to be a tool for fulfilling God's purpose. My marriage wasn’t supposed to be centered on my desires—but on His plan.

That day, I surrendered. I laid down my dreams, timelines, comparisons, and expectations at His feet. It didn’t happen overnight, but with time, my heart began to align with God’s will. I found peace—not in getting what I wanted, but in trusting the One who knows best.

And then, something amazing happened.

On December 31st, 2018, I got engaged.

Not because I had pushed hard enough, cried long enough, or been “good” enough—but because I finally aligned with God’s heart and plan.

What You Can Learn from My Journey

If you’re a Christian feeling stuck, overlooked, or discouraged in any area of your life—especially in waiting seasons—here are three lessons I learned that I hope will encourage you:

1. Align with God’s Will:

   Don’t compare your journey to others. Life is not a competition. Trust that God’s timing for *you* is perfect.

2. Examine Your Motives:  

   Ask yourself why you're praying certain prayers. Could there be selfishness or fear driving your desires?

3. Seek the Kingdom First:

   Put God’s plan above your own. His will is always greater, always better, and always for your good.

Are You in a Waiting Season?

If this post resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself! Share it with a friend who needs encouragement. And if you’re navigating a difficult season of waiting, I’d love to hear your story—drop a comment below or send me a message.  

Let’s grow together in surrender, faith, and purpose.  

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You’re not alone—and your waiting is not wasted.

 

Can God Reveal Your Future Spouse Through Dreams?

Hey, family! Welcome back to the blog. If you're in your single season and desiring to know God's will for your marriage, this post is for you! One question I see a lot in my inbox and comment section is: Can God reveal my future spouse through dreams? Let's talk about it.

Can God Speak Through Dreams?

Yes! God can definitely speak to us through dreams. The Bible is filled with examples of God communicating through dreams—think of Joseph, Daniel, and even Mary’s husband, Joseph. Dreams are one of the many ways God can guide us, including visions, an audible voice, or an inner witness from the Holy Spirit.

But here’s the thing: Not every dream is from God!

Be Careful With Dreams About Your Future Spouse

A lot of singles get excited when they dream about someone they like, thinking it’s a divine confirmation that this person is their God-ordained spouse. But pause for a moment. Just because you had a dream about marrying someone doesn’t automatically mean they are “the one.” Why? Because dreams can be influenced by different things:

• Your thoughts and emotions – If you’ve been thinking about a particular person a lot, your subconscious mind can bring them into your dreams.
• External influences – Things you watched, read, or even discussed before sleeping can shape your dreams.
• The enemy’s deception – Yes, the devil can manipulate dreams too! Not every spiritual dream is from God. Some dreams are meant to deceive and distract you from God's actual plan.

Test Every Spirit

The Bible tells us in 1 John 4:1, “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God.” The same applies to dreams. Just because a dream feels real or vivid doesn't mean it's from God. You need discernment.

How Do You Confirm If a Dream Is From God?

If you had a dream about someone being your future spouse, don’t make any hasty conclusions. Instead:

1. Pray about it – Ask God for clarity and confirmation through His Word and in your spirit.
2. Compare it with Scripture – God’s will never contradicts His Word. If the dream goes against biblical principles, it's not from Him.
3. Seek wise counsel – Talk to spiritually mature mentors or pastors who can help you discern God’s voice.
4. Wait for confirmation – One dream is not enough to make a life-altering decision. God often confirms His will in multiple ways.

My Personal Experience

When I was single, I had many dreams about different people—dreams where I saw myself marrying them, starting a family, and building a future together. But guess what? I’m not married to any of those people today! In fact, when I met my husband, I didn’t have a single dream about him before we got together. Instead, I had peace, clarity, and confirmation through other means. This just goes to show that while dreams can be significant, they are not the only way God speaks.

Final Thoughts

God can reveal your future spouse through dreams, but He can also lead you through peace, wise counsel, and His Word. Don’t base your entire marital destiny on a single dream—test it, pray about it, and seek confirmation. Remember, marriage is a lifetime covenant, and you want to be 100% sure you’re following God’s plan, not just your emotions or desires.

Have you ever had a dream about a future spouse? How did you handle it? Let’s chat in the comments!

And hey, if you found this post helpful, don’t forget to share it with a friend. Stay blessed! 😊

When people you aren't in a relationship with give you a compliment, your reaction is always good. We all love compliments. It's a gift. It shows we really are seen, appreciated or even worth been thanked for being who we are. In most relationship, especially the ones that have been long term there could be a reduced amount of compliment. These compliments don't just die for some it just goes right out of the window and everyone begins to feel entitled to whatever their partner is supposed to do or give.

Compliments are Powerful in maintaining and sustaining a great relationship. Compliments are important, it's like the good your relationship feeds on. When we thank our partners for being or doing something it makes them want to do more.

Compliments makes your partner do more. The reason why you seem to complain of your partner not doing anything for you could be that you may not be complimenting for the things they do right. The strengths of your partner should be in front of you more, they should be praised. They should be appreciated and be made to be a big deal. Behaviours that are rewarded gets repeated. Don't say "You haven't done what I really want". Appreciate the little they do. Appreciate the ones that could seem little. Make it a big deal. It should be appreciated. It shouldn't fall into the class of  "It's her or his responsibilities". Forgetting that doing responsibility over and over again takes a lot of commitment and dedication. Appreciate the little, the almost everyday things that could almost seem insignificant now. They will want to do more, your partner will want to be more.

 Compliments help your relationship in times of conflict. In times when things are not as they should be. Past compliments makes your partner know you sincerely and truthfully love them.

Give more compliments, notice the things you have stopped noticing. The things that made you fall in love with each other should still be appreciated. The efforts they make in becoming better lovers should be celebrated and appreciated. Appreciate the daily routine that could have become their responsibility.

Don't allow over familiarity and areas that seem not to be perfect affect areas that are really good. Give more, givers don't lack. Give and it shall be given unto you.

Give more compliments and you will get more compliments. Stay blessed and enjoy your compliments filled relationship.

Blame shifting in relationships

On a good Wednesday night, I told myself I was done with this relationship. I was done trying to keep this relationship sexually pure. The relationship had to be the real reason why I was not enjoying my relationship with Jesus anymore. We were beginning to kiss and touch again. I was ready to walk away, ready to throw in the towel in this Christ founded relationship. I was tired of compromising. Meeting sister Dorcas was so I could get the last counsel and wanted all the fingers pointed at this great Christian guy. I didn't want to take any of the blame so I went for my counseling session with Sister Dorcas.

IS RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX POSSIBLE?

You have issues too

Sister Dorcas just visited my campus fellowship that evening. We just had a great interactive session about having a Christ-centered Courtship and keeping it holy. The word Holy! Holy!! Holy!!! Was ringing over and over in my head. I wasn't going to leave this meeting without speaking with her. I wanted her to counsel me again about this relationship of mine. This relationship was certainly the root of my sexual falling and rising. I met sister Dorcas and told her how it was the guy's fault. How he was the one leading me away from my love for God. How he was the one who isn't sticking to the boundaries... Blablabla. She listened to me and after my long epistle she told me something that shocked me "sister what if it's all your fault?"

Deal with your roots

My eyes grew bigger and rounder. I was amazed. How could all this be my fault? I don't want to kiss, I just want to live holy. I know my relationship is rooted in Christ but these sins just seem to be going nowhere. She ended that session by telling me this "deal with your sexual root". My sexual root? How? Why? What? What does it mean? I wasn't sure but I knew I used to be involved in a lot of things in my past. I know there was pornographic videos, masturbating and a whole lot of childhood curiosities being answered by experimenting without guidance.

So I kind of started going back to my past to dig out this root. I thought I was just to move on and got very holy relationship / Courtship before marriage. I wanted all the fruits of a cleansed heart and I wanted all the benefits of having a sexually pure singlehood but I had a root I hadn't dealt with. Deep roots of lust. So here is it sweetie "deal with the root".
What is the root of your sexual kiss kiss, touch touch journey? If you don't handle these roots and allow the spirit of God uproot them out then you might be dealing with a time bomb. All you need to start feeling lovey-dovey again and boom! You begin to lust again. Most times we try to deal with the fruits instead of the root. Why did you start having sex in the first place? What led you to make that decision? What led to your first time ever MASTURBATING? Therein lies a root.
When I carried out a little research, I realized that getting to the root of the problem helps you deal with this issue of not being able to remain chaste in Courtship. How did you lose your virginity and why? These are important questions to answer. When does lust get triggered in your heart? How does it all begin? What events happen before you get sexual involved? Deal with these issues personally and collectively.

More than physical boundaries

Physical boundaries are important for you to stay chaste but how about boundaries of your heart. The heart is where the real issue starts from. Sometimes we think just dealing with it physically is enough. Deal with it from your heart, from the real issue. Our lives are not led from the external, it's from the internal out. So when you haven't shifted your mind and focus on thinking of sexual thoughts then you are likely to fall again. Inside your heart is the main issue, it is the main problem. Deal with it. The question you might as is HOW?. Its very simple, renew your mind and change your thought patterns. You are in control of your thoughts they are never in control of you.
Your thoughts can change
Try this little exercise, shut your eyes for 2 minutes and think about the best day of your life. The happiest moment ever, that moment you felt so proud of yourself. Focus on that thought and nothing else. You can tell that suddenly you begin to feel happy. You begin to feel so joyful. Try repeating this exercise for the most annoying day of your life. Focus on that annoying day and you will tell that there will be a change in how you feel. Your thoughts can be changed, they even change all the time. That's one reason why you cannot even rely on them. In there is the real issue. Take responsibility for your thoughts, when you take responsibility for them. It will certainly change your life and lead you on this path to sexual pure relationships.

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Dating sometimes leads to lots of heart breaks, it is important we understand just a few things we can do to make any broken relationship henceforth less painful, life-changing and full of horror. Yes, the world has been cruel to some of us, however we have a responsibility to protect ourselves. Here are some things we should do:

1. Avoid having too much expectations
Too much expectations I mean having this 'Le Boo can never do that attitude . We just need to understand that perfect boo is also human and can make errors too! like duh! Just try a little bit to have this mind set that if its going to work its going to work and for it to work out you two need to work together. You could be in it 200% but Le Boo could just be having fun. Such is life dear.

2. Run when you still have a heart:
Sometimes you could see this little signs of *I am not serious with you* attitude. Kindly dust the sand off your shoes and RUN. You would save yourself the heart break by telling yourself the bitter truth. When someone loves you it is clear and visible for all to see. When the love is cold too, you can tell. Have a little self dignity, ask important questions so you can make the right decision before a decision is being made for you.

3. Avoid premarital sex:
I know so many people will be like "What is that one now"?  When you really want to save your heart from unnecessary trouble, stay away from premarital sex. Sex is a beautiful thing and God created it to be binding force between a man and a woman (Married). Permit me to say that sex has a way of blocking your sense of judgement. I am a firm believer *of wait till the ring is on the finger!*. That does not mean that your heart can't still get broken just that the pain is not as heavy as when you have done all the positions with him/her and maybe an abortion.


4. Get a Life:
The truth is so many of us make this silly mistake, because you are in a relationship you no longer have a life. No friends, zero social life, distance from family and loved ones. Chai! *shakinghead* . A relationship is not a license to be a fool now. Everywhere you are Lee Boo is just around the corner, you no longer socialize its just you and Lee Boo. You eat, breath and sleep Lee Boo. All your friends are now potential Lee Boo snatchers. The truth is simple, a good relationship is supposed to make you a better person not a worse person socially and in every area.

5. Define your relationship:
It is a common thing for guys to walk up to girls and express their desire to be with the other. Ask them this question "Why do you want to be with me?" That is a direct question that you need to have answers to. My dear, its important that the purpose of a relationship is said from the very beginning. At least if you both are playing with yourselves it will be defined, if you are going somewhere definite like getting married, good for you. An undefined relationship is a big root cause of heartbreak. I have seen issues with ladies who have been in relationships for years just for Le Boo to wake up one morning to say 'we were just dating after all i never promised you marriage'. Sorry love such is life, you will be wiser, next time i promise you.

6. Give your heart to God first:
The most important thing to do in life is to give your life and all to God. When you realize the depth of love that God has for you His love will be all that matters to you. When you have understood the kind of love that God has for you, it will be easier for you to notice fake love or lust. Gods love is all about action, He loved us and He gave His only possession. Love is not all about emotions and words, its about actions and its an investment.

7. Love yourself:
So many of us do not even know ourselves talk more of loving us. One of the most difficult question for most people to answer is "Who am I"? . What is your perception about yourself. If you were able to answer that question with confidence then congratulations!!! Its important you know who you are and also love yourself. It is bad that you cannot even do things for yourself you rely on your partner for everything. Ladies and gentlemen, Le Boo must not buy you everything, buy things for yourself, treat yourself right. Its not a hard thing to spend quality time with yourself and when a man/woman treats you less it will be easy to walk away. Embrace yourself, tell your self every reason why you should be treated right. Stop complaining about everything your weight, your color, your height etc, love yourself for who you are. The worlds view about Mr or Mrs Perfect shape, colour or figure is constantly changing. Just make sure you take care of yourself. If you have gotten your heart broken before you need to heal after the heart break and move on.

Blame shifting in relationships

On a good Wednesday night, I told myself I was done with this relationship. I was done trying to keep this relationship sexually pure. The relationship had to be the real reason why I was not enjoying my relationship with Jesus anymore. We were beginning to kiss and touch again. I was ready to walk away, ready to throw in the towel in this Christ founded relationship. I was tired of compromising. Meeting sister Dorcas was so I could get the last counsel and wanted all the fingers pointed at this great Christian guy. I didn't want to take any of the blame so I went for my counseling session with Sister Dorcas.


1. LOOK WITHIN

Sister Dorcas just visited my campus fellowship that evening. We just had a great interactive session about having a Christ-centered Courtship and keeping it holy. The word Holy! Holy!! Holy!!! Was ringing over and over in my head. I wasn't going to leave this meeting without speaking with her. I wanted her to counsel me again about this relationship of mine. This relationship was certainly the root of my sexual falling and rising. I met sister Dorcas and told her how it was the guy's fault. How he was the one leading me away from my love for God. How he was the one who isn't sticking to the boundaries... Blablabla. She listened to me and after my long epistle she told me something that shocked me "sister what if it's all your fault?"

2. DEAL WITH YOUR ROOTS

My eyes grew bigger and rounder. I was amazed. How could all this be my fault? I don't want to kiss, I just want to live holy. I know my relationship is rooted in Christ but these sins just seem to be going nowhere. She ended that session by telling me this "deal with your sexual root". My sexual root? How? Why? What? What does it mean? I wasn't sure but I knew I used to be involved in a lot of things in my past. I know there was pornographic videos, masturbating and a whole lot of childhood curiosities being answered by experimenting without guidance.

So I kind of started going back to my past to dig out this root. I thought I was just to move on and got very holy relationship / Courtship before marriage. I wanted all the fruits of a cleansed heart and I wanted all the benefits of having a sexually pure singlehood but I had a root I hadn't dealt with. Deep roots of lust. So here is it sweetie "deal with the root".
What is the root of your sexual kiss kiss, touch touch journey? If you don't handle these roots and allow the spirit of God uproot them out then you might be dealing with a time bomb. All you need to start feeling lovey-dovey again and boom! You begin to lust again. Most times we try to deal with the fruits instead of the root. Why did you start having sex in the first place? What led you to make that decision? What led to your first time ever MASTURBATING? Therein lies a root.

When I carried out a little research, I realized that getting to the root of the problem helps you deal with this issue of not being able to remain chaste in Courtship. How did you lose your virginity and why? These are important questions to answer. When does lust get triggered in your heart? How does it all begin? What events happen before you get sexual involved? Deal with these issues personally and collectively.

3. MORE THAN PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES

Physical boundaries are important for you to stay chaste but how about boundaries of your heart. The heart is where the real issue starts from. Sometimes we think just dealing with it physically is enough. Deal with it from your heart, from the real issue. Our lives are not led from the external, it's from the internal out. So when you haven't shifted your mind and focus on thinking of sexual thoughts then you are likely to fall again. Inside your heart is the main issue, it is the main problem. Deal with it. The question you might as is HOW?. Its very simple, renew your mind and change your thought patterns. You are in control of your thoughts they are never in control of you.

4. CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS

Try this little exercise, shut your eyes for 2 minutes and think about the best day of your life. The happiest moment ever, that moment you felt so proud of yourself. Focus on that thought and nothing else. You can tell that suddenly you begin to feel happy. You begin to feel so joyful. Try repeating this exercise for the most annoying day of your life. Focus on that annoying day and you will tell that there will be a change in how you feel. Your thoughts can be changed, they even change all the time. That's one reason why you cannot even rely on them. In there is the real issue. Take responsibility for your thoughts, when you take responsibility for them. It will certainly change your life and lead you on this path to sexual pure relationships.

Please don't forget to share this post.

Dating sometimes leads to lots of heart breaks, it is important we understand just a few things we can do to make any broken relationship henceforth less painful, life-changing and full of horror. Yes, the world has been cruel to some of us, however we have a responsibility to protect ourselves. Here are some things we should do:

1. Avoid having too much expectations
Too much expectations I mean having this 'Le Boo can never do that attitude . We just need to understand that perfect boo is also human and can make errors too! like duh! Just try a little bit to have this mind set that if its going to work its going to work and for it to work out you two need to work together. You could be in it 200% but Le Boo could just be having fun. Too much expectations usually is rooted in Selfishness which is a great killer of relationships Such is life dear.

2. Run when you still have a heart:
Sometimes you could see this little signs of *I am not serious with you* attitude. Kindly dust the sand off your shoes and RUN. You would save yourself the heart break by telling yourself the bitter truth. When someone loves you it is clear and visible for all to see. When the love is cold too, you can tell. Have a little self dignity, ask important questions so you can make the right decision before a decision is being made for you. Or you get ready to

3. Avoid premarital sex:
I know so many people will be like "What is that one now"?  When you really want to save your heart from unnecessary trouble, stay away from premarital sex. Sex is a beautiful thing and God created it to be binding force between a man and a woman (Married). Permit me to say that sex has a way of blocking your sense of judgement. I am a firm believer *of wait till the ring is on the finger!*. I want to remind you that Purity is possible.  That does not mean that your heart can't still get broken just that the pain is not as heavy as when you have done all the positions with him/her and maybe an abortion.



4. Get a Life:
The truth is so many of us make this silly mistake, because you are in a relationship you no longer have a life. No friends, zero social life, distance from family and loved ones. Chai! *shakinghead* . A relationship is not a license to be a fool now. Everywhere you are Lee Boo is just around the corner, you no longer socialize its just you and Lee Boo. You eat, breath and sleep Lee Boo. All your friends are now potential Lee Boo snatchers. The truth is simple, a good relationship is supposed to make you a better person not a worse person socially and in every area.

5. Define your relationship:
It is a common thing for guys to walk up to girls and express their desire to be with the other. Ask them this question "Why do you want to be with me?" That is a direct question that you need to have answers to. My dear, its important that the purpose of a relationship is said from the very beginning. At least if you both are playing with yourselves it will be defined, if you are going somewhere definite like getting married, good for you. An undefined relationship is a big root cause of heartbreak. I have seen issues with ladies who have been in relationships for years just for Le Boo to wake up one morning to say 'we were just dating after all i never promised you marriage'. Sorry love such is life, you will be wiser, next time i promise you.

6. Give your heart to God first:
The most important thing to do in life is to give your life and all to God. When you realize the depth of love that God has for you His love will be all that matters to you. When you have understood the kind of love that God has for you, it will be easier for you to notice fake love or lust. Gods love is all about action, He loved us and He gave His only possession. Love is not all about emotions and words, its about actions and its an investment.

7. Love yourself:
So many of us do not even know ourselves talk more of loving us. One of the most difficult question for most people to answer is "Who am I"? . What is your perception about yourself. If you were able to answer that question with confidence then congratulations!!!


Its important you know who you are and also love yourself. It is bad that you cannot even do things for yourself you rely on your partner for everything. Ladies and gentlemen, Le Boo must not buy you everything, buy things for yourself, treat yourself right. Its not a hard thing to spend quality time with yourself and when a man/woman treats you less it will be easy to walk away. Embrace yourself, tell your self every reason why you should be treated right.


Stop complaining about everything your weight, your color, your height etc, love yourself for who you are. The worlds view about Mr or Mrs Perfect shape, colour or figure is constantly changing. Just make sure you take care of yourself.
If you have gotten your heart broken before you need to heal after the Heart break and move on.  Even if your heart has broken before you can absolutely  Start again

Anger has a way of getting in our way of reaching our goal of a healthy relationship. Some of us have had very good relationships which we simply messed up because we didn't have a way to manage our anger.

Anger is an emotion that we all experience, and it signifies that something has to be done. Anger makes you aware that there is a problem. How you deal with your anger can become a big part of the problem. For some couples, anger can make it nearly impossible to figure out what the problem is and how to fix it.

There are ways to fix pouring out your anger on your partner. 

 1.  Know that you are in control of your emotions. Nothing should be in control of us. We are adults therefore we shouldn't allow any emotions get the best of us. When we allow anger control us then we have handed over power to make vital decisions in our lives for us.

 2. Knowing that the anger can be controlled, take out some time to calm yourself down.  Take out time to get calm. So many times we make nasty decisions when we are angry and when the emotions fade away. We can't take back what we have done.

 3. We need to know that anger is just the by product of one negative feeling or the other. Such as disappointment, rejection, being look down on etc. It could have started at one point or the other especially from childhood. It's important you look into the very root of your anger. The real reason for the anger might not be the real reason at all.

 4. Choose to never put your hopes on man. Truly when we expect people to be with faults it helps us reduce the rate at which we get angry at them. It's more like saying don't expect too much. They won't be perfect neither will you.

How to handle your partners anger. 

When you partner is angry is never the best time to be angry also. The ideal thing is never to get upset when your partner is angry but most times we find ourselves upset almost at the same time. I will tell you the ideal thing to do.

Be supportive: know that your spouse isn't just angry because they choose to be angry. They have a reason which is good enough to make them angry.  At this time, you should be calm and listen actively. I don't think it's a time to talk actively. Listen! Really listen not for the purpose of answering back but for the purpose of trying to understand where they are coming from.


It's not about you: You also need to know that at this point your own feelings and perspective isn't important. For now it's not about you, it's about the other person.

Practice apologizing: stay calm, and remind yourself why you are in the relationship. That you are in control of how you express your emotions. Relationships are made for the best forgiver and apologizers. Be willing to forgive and accept being wrong.

I will be 26 in a few months time and I remember how much at a point in my life I had it all figured out. I'm one of those young girls who wanted to be called a wife at 23. It was one of those visions on my vision board. I had a particular age when I felt a particular event should have happened. I remember writing at the bottom of my vision board this words  "THY WILL BE DONE NOT MINE, LORD".

Those words have been rocking my boat. Even times when I feel like God isn't showing up very early I still trust his will. The reason for this post is to help us through the time we have the PRESSURE to be married. So many times we feel that pressure is from friends and family but most time we seem to the the source of our own pressure. We expect certain things to happen at certain times in our lives and once they are not happening we begin to freak out. There are things you can't control in your life. There are some events that happen for a reason. There are some seasons you have to go through so as to refine you and allow you to reach your full potentials. Yeah, your biological clock may be ticking according to the world's standard but God might be saying HOLD ON, JUST A LITTLE WHILE!!

READ ALSO: CAREER VS MARRIAGE, WHICH SHOULD COME FIRST

How to you handle this internal pressure?
LIVE, LIVE, LIVE!!!! Live your life. Live the life you are created for. Love the life you have and make the best of it. Stop holding on to that dream and not work towards it. Live, don't wait. Don't wait until everything falls into place. Work on your God given assignment and begin to fulfill your purpose on earth. One of the greatest fear of Singles is being rejected. Don't let that rejection that occurs on your way to fulfilling purpose get to you.

ENJOY YOUR SEASON!! Don't walk around wishing you were where you are not therefore neglecting the beauty of the season you currently find yourself. Enjoy the season God is walking you through. Take your time and enjoy the walk. BREATHE SWEETIE, BREATHE!! Stop walking around with a song of lament on your lip. Keep your head up high and trust the one who is in charge of seasons to walk you through this. Look purposefully at everything around you and be thankful.

Remember this, Marriage is another season of your life. Allow this season, allow it to bring you all its blessings.

Since my 23 mark up till now I will highlight all the beautiful events that has happened in my life.
 1.  I started this blog. I'm so grateful. I loved mathematics so much and never liked English. I was never confident in my writing skills. Over these years my writing skills has improved. I'm not yet satisfied with where I am but I'm grateful.
 2. I'm writing a book. I was never that kind of girl who would ever think of writing a book. I have been on it for a while now. Hopefully it will be out before my birthday.
 3. I have a teaching career. My teaching career is growing and there has been progress. I love teaching kids. It's one of the best things I've ever done in my life.
 4. Running a singles ministry. Talk about being so blessed. Light bearers ministry has been a great blessing to me. I couldn't have thought about that on my own. Following the spirits leading to start that ministry has been one of my greatest blessings till date.
 5. Completion of school of ministry. I just graduated from school of ministry in the month of July. God, am so blessed!!!
 I could go on and on counting all the great things God has been doing in this season for me.

This is my prayer for you this morning. That you won't be too pressured to the point where you stop counting your blessings.
Count your blessings, give them names, write them down and enjoy this season. Look beyond yourself, look around you and see the great things God is doing.

If this post has been a blessing to you, kindly share.

How have you handled the pressure to be married??

Do you know you can achieve all that you set your heart to achieve this second half of the year? YES!!! You might have failed in the first half of the year but you can totally achieve them and recover all.

You might be feeling like you are not good enough, or not wealthy enough, or  big enough to achieve the very thing you set your heart to do, I promise you, you too can.

I will be focusing on the relationship and marriage goals you have set for yourself which might look like you are not achieving. Maybe your goal at the beginning of the year was to serve him more, be more patient, be more loving, remember all dates that are important and you just find yourself doing the worst instead of your best. I know that feeling of being disappointed in yourself for failing at the very thing you are supposed to do well.

Look dear, don't beat yourself up. You can maintain that goal of being a better spouse no matter how many times you have failed. Rise you and love long and hard. It's possible for you to maintain the chastity you deserve in your courtship. No matter how bad or too low you've gone don't give up. Try again.

Look at this illustration of Abraham Lincoln:

 While today he is remembered as one of the greatest leaders of our America, Lincoln's life wasn't so easy. In his youth he went to war as a captain and returned a private (if you're not familiar with military ranks, just know that private is as low as it goes.) Lincoln didn't stop failing there, however. He started numerous failed businesses, went bankrupt twice and was defeated in 26 campaigns he made for public office.

Looking at these failure by Abraham Lincoln. It could have been easy for him never try again. I am glad he did try again and again.

Your relationship didn't work out the last time, but I believe it can work again this time. Yes!! It surely can. All you need to do is trust the one who is able to keep you from falling. Encourage yourself and try again. Even if you fail again, pick up the lessons from your failure and try one more time. You could have been disappointed and broken but try one more time. Try again, if others could do it then you surely.

I see you getting restored and get up and try again. I believe in you. I Love you dearly.

I was in the bathroom one day thinking about relationships and biblical men. I asked the Holy Spirit "what would it be like if I were to marry a biblical man"? I went on to study the lives of these men and drew some lessons from their lives.

The purpose of this post is to make us remove from our hearts the notion that a biblical man has to be perfect. You know we sometimes put so much pressure on them that a mistake they make seems so unforgivable. A man after Gods heart doesn’t  necessarily have to be perfect he needs a heart that yearns for God and loves him above everything. Just imagine marrying a man like David, just join me on this ride dear singles.

1.  Your life will be unstable, I mean you will be moving around a lot with a lot of people. Just imagine moving from cave to cave, city to city because you are running from one King called Saul. You get to see him moving around like a chicken about to be slaughtered. Really does that make him sound or look like the great man?  Why can’t he face the man face to face and give you stability for once. So if you marry a man like David, be ready to enjoy the unstable household and endless battles. You have to know that this man doesn’t  have all the answers to life, he just has a God who is the answer to everything. We need to build up qualities and a firm relationship with God, that will help us stay trusting God through the changes.

2.  He may cheat, did I hear you say a biblical man cheat!!!! He would even murder her husband and marry the woman. What height of insanity? A whole biblical man how can he?? How can a man God says is after his heart do such abominable thing? Sweetie, that biblical man is not immune to mistakes, so just have your shock absorber ready for any. Our ability to forgive will have to come into play here. We need to have God’s kind of heart to be able to forgive and let go of bitterness and hurt.

3. His son will dethrone him!!! Then he will run away. Can you believe a whole king can be dethroned by his own son? Instead of him staying and fighting he fled. You can just imagine having to get up again and enter a circle of running up and down after he had been king. If you ever married such a man in a bid to get security then your security is gone. This shows us that our security is in the Lord never on our husband or our marriage.

4.  He is going to be a crazy worshipper and lover of everything God. He is more interested in his relationship with God than any earthly relationships and possessions. He will worship God with everything within him.

What other things do you think would have happened if you married a man like David? Kindly leave your comments below and don’t forget to share.

       I want to share a story of a beautiful, young lady. She is a sister and a co-labourer in the vineyard.

The aim of this story is to encourage youths of the 21st century to hold on to Christ and have a good relationship with him. He is the only one that can give us all we ever want, everything we desire and has plans for us, in HIM our future is secured.(Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope).

     THE BEGINNING
Oluwaseun is a beautiful young lady in her early twenties, she is a  devoted Christian. She loves singing and making friends, She is a Nurse by profession, Her perfect set of teeth makes her beautiful and when she smiles you just have to develop goose bumps...She has a very lovely voice. In short, she is an angel without wings.

FIRST LOVE /LOOSING HER VIRGINITY
Her love life started early at the age of 17,when she was in senior secondary school 3. She had a close friend John who is a family friend, John is dark,handsome and tall with a nice set of teeth. They were in the same class and they were always going home together, they were very close...John loves seun so much and was looking forward to having a serious relationship with her after secondary school ,they continued as friends till after their SSCE  Exam. He told seun about his feelings for her and all, Seun felt the same way too, so they started dating and they were able to gain admission into the same nursing school.

John and oluwaseun's relationship grew stronger  and stronger everyday and they were named the BEST COUPLE of their set. Fast forward to 200 level, freshers came in and the relationship took a new turn. John met Lola and they became close. Seun was suspicious and warned john about the sudden closeness,  John assured her they were just friends and nothing is going on between them. Lola  calls John everyday and they were always chatting, this went on for months and seun decided not to talk about it and still maintained her relationship with John. Youthful exuberance set in,John started pressurizing Seun for sex, with the excuse that if she truly love him, she should give his virginity to him...To prove her love for him, Seun gave in and that is how they allowed the devil into their lives. You will agree with me that once you start having sex, you will continue. John was busy  having a solid relationship with Lola and using Seun as a sex tool...this continued until  after school. Seun knows about the relationship between John and Lola, but she kept hoping he will come back to her.

FIRST BREAK UP
After school, Seun told her elder sister Tobi about all that has been happening between him and John (their family friend son) excluding sex. Tobi reported to their mother and she told seun to cut off the relationship, that her mind is against the relationship. Seun told her beloved John about it and that was how their relationship of 5years ended...Mean while, John was still dating lola. It took Seun a year to get over John, Even after the breakup they still had several episodes of sex until Seun decided she was going to stop it.

MOVING ON WITHOUT JESUS
Seun got a job in Lagos and moved to Lagos to start a new life,a life without Christ...She started replying guys messages on facebook and meeting them just because she wanted a relationship and she was scared of being lonely...

MEETING BANJI
She met a medical doctor Banji. Banji stays in Ondo, a young, handsome  house officer in a  federal  hospital in Ondo. They started chatting for a month and it seems like they had known each other for a long period of time. Banji had a girlfriend at that time, Rukayat. Rukayat is a muslim,a year older than Banji, also a house officer in the hospital. Banji told Seun about the lady and their differences (Religion and age), he told her he was breaking up with her because his parents are not in support of their relationship. Banji confessed his love for Seun and they planned towards meeting. Seun travelled all the way from Lagos to Ondo to see Banji. They were so happy to see each other and they were together throughout that day. Banji told seun he had plans of getting married to her and that he is really happy he met her, they talked about their future together and all. They had sex that night and the relationship seem blissful. Seun travelled back the next day, she was happy that yes, she finally found the one. She told her friends about her new boyfriend and even told  her ex boyfriend John about the new relationship. Banji was always sending her money without even asking, she thought she has found the right one. (All that glitters is not gold).

THINGS GOT COMPLICATED
The relationship went on for a month and after sometime things started changing, Banji feels Seun is pressurizing him to breakup with Rukayat. Rukayat moved in with Banji, Seun started seeking for advice from her colleague at work Amaka, on how to make the Banji love her and how to handle the situation. Amaka told her to pack her stuff and stay with the Banji for a week to get to know him better. She did what amaka asked her to do. Seun packed her things and went to stay with Banji for a week. A Life changing week, A drama Filled week.

Seun stayed in Banji’s house performing house wife duty, helping with house chores and cooking for him. Everything went well until a day before Seun was supposed to leave, when Rukayat came into the house with her own spare keys and met Seun inside the house with Banji. She was really a calm young lady. She asked Banji to excuse her for 10 minutes, they went outside to talk. Seun quickly called Amaka and told her the situation of things. Banji came inside and packed his laptop and took his bag and told Seun he was coming back, he left and Seun was left alone  wondering what could have happened? Could it be that they are still dating?. She waited until she got a message from Banji telling her to leave the house now, that Rukayat's mother is coming to his place to solve the issue. Seun packed her things and left for Ibadan where her ex boyfriend stays because it was late already, She was very sad. Amaka sent an insulting message to Banji for letting Seun leave his house at that time. Banji and Amaka exchanged words.

HEART BREAK
Banji started calling Seun the nextday,she was too hurt to pick the call,so she didn’t pick the call and left it ringing. Seun got back to lagos really sick and was admitted in the hospital, she couldn’t get over the relationship of 2months, she felt used and lonely. She cried every night and almost entered depression, all thanks to her best friend and roommate in school Chidinma who stood by her.
Seun remained single for  a year and 4months before she met another guy  Olawale.

OLAWALE

Olawale travelled to Kenya and forgot about his relationship with oluwaseun,he met some weird girls and had fun throughout his stay, Oluwaseun became worried and kept calling him through what's app call,at times he picks and tell her he is out or left his phone ringing. When he came back to Nigeria he bought a nice wooden jewelry box containing a beaded chain with earrings,a nice top and beaded scarf for Seun. Seun went to see him, he was with his friend and they were about going out. He forgot his phone in the room, so she went through his pictures and saw so many funny pictures of him and some girls cuddling,hugging and pecking,she left his house in anger and later texted him about what she saw.

 Two weeks later, she went to wale's house and went through his phone and what's app chat with one of the ladies he met, she got angry with the content of the message,returned all he got for her and went back home,Wale was sleeping while she was reading all the messages,so she left without telling him. Wale woke up and saw she left, he texted her and told her he loved her so much and doesn't like that behavior from her. She collected the items back and told him to delete all the ladies pictures which he did. Seun felt insecure, always checking his messages to know if there is any lady trying to get her man's attention.

 The relationship went sour, Olawale calls once in a while and always uses work as an excuse, Seun had to squat with wale for sometime due to accommodation issues, pending when  she gets her place. There was a day she came back from work and met Olawale and a female friend at home, she was surprised that Olawale didn't go to work and he didn't tell her that morning he was not feeling fine, she greeted the lady and went to the room waiting for explanations.

Olawale later came into the room and told her he didn't go to work because he was not feeling too good, she felt bad because she couldn't imagine staying in the same roof with her boyfriend and he didn't tell him he wasn't feeling too good, it went on like that for sometime and olawale kept things to himself without telling seun. Seun decided to get an apartment without telling him too, the relationship was already a mess, things fell apart...Seun kept crying silently and praying he won't break up with her. Olawale sold his car without telling Seun, Seun  felt bad again and confronted him,he made it clear to her that it is not her money and she has no say.

 Seun moved out of his house to her own apartment, Wale visited her and they talked about their differences,they let it go and decided to move on with the relationship

  For two weeks Olawale stopped calling Seun, Seun kept calling at times he picks and tell her he's busy, they decided to see on Sunday evening, Seun went to his place with fear and anxiety all over her face,waiting for him to tell her it over, Olawale came and they greeted each other,Seun poured out her mind and told him what's happening? He told her it's better to tell her now then later, he doesn't see any future in the relationship, she broke down in tears, she felt like dying, she was very heart-broken and lost. She cried out in pain ,Why me?Why is it always like this?...She left his house that day to her friend's place and cried, her friend went out to get her drugs,only for him to come back and find out she took a whole bottle of vodka for the first time seun tasted what alcohol was..she felt it is just over for her,she couldn't keep a relationship,where will she start from?Her parents knows about the guy?

MET A FRIEND

 She decided to go back to her ig page and remembered Olawale tagged her in a relationship page, gabby speaks she needed to talk to someone not her friends but someone she doesn't know, she took gabby's number and chatted with her via what's app,she brought her back to Christ,and she felt a little bit relieved after talking to her that day, that was how oluwaseun returned to her first love who can give her that unending love she wants, who can fill the void no man can feel.


◦ Hey,single ladies and men out there, my advice is let's return back to our first love which is Jesus Christ, if you are in any relationship now, ask if the relationship is rooted in Christ, flee from adultery or fornication, it makes you have a low self esteem, it destroys your future.

Serve the Lord your God in your youth, look for what interest you in the house of God, Do it well to please God and not human. God has plans for our lives...He wants us to walk in purpose, He wants us to fulfill purpose. Look at your relationship with you spouse, if it doesn't please God, give it a break and return unto your First love, if it is meant to be it will, and if not God has just saved you from regret.

Have a close relationship with God, tell him about anything you want to do, involve Him in your day-to-day life. My God is not a God of confusion, He doesn't stay in a confused relationship.

       I want to share a story of a beautiful, young lady. She is a sister and a co-labourer in the vineyard.

The aim of this story is to encourage youths of the 21st century to hold on to Christ and have a good relationship with him. He is the only one that can give us all we ever want, everything we desire and has plans for us, in HIM our future is secured.(Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope).

     THE BEGINNING
Oluwaseun is a beautiful young lady in her early twenties, she is a  devoted Christian. She loves singing and making friends, She is a Nurse by profession, Her perfect set of teeth makes her beautiful and when she smiles you just have to develop goose bumps...She has a very lovely voice. In short, she is an angel without wings.

FIRST LOVE /LOOSING HER VIRGINITY
Her love life started early at the age of 17,when she was in senior secondary school 3. She had a close friend John who is a family friend, John is dark,handsome and tall with a nice set of teeth. They were in the same class and they were always going home together, they were very close...John loves seun so much and was looking forward to having a serious relationship with her after secondary school ,they continued as friends till after their SSCE  Exam. He told seun about his feelings for her and all, Seun felt the same way too, so they started dating and they were able to gain admission into the same nursing school.

John and oluwaseun's relationship grew stronger  and stronger everyday and they were named the BEST COUPLE of their set. Fast forward to 200 level, freshers came in and the relationship took a new turn. John met Lola and they became close. Seun was suspicious and warned john about the sudden closeness,  John assured her they were just friends and nothing is going on between them. Lola  calls John everyday and they were always chatting, this went on for months and seun decided not to talk about it and still maintained her relationship with John. Youthful exuberance set in,John started pressurizing Seun for sex, with the excuse that if she truly love him, she should give his virginity to him...To prove her love for him, Seun gave in and that is how they allowed the devil into their lives. You will agree with me that once you start having sex, you will continue. John was busy  having a solid relationship with Lola and using Seun as a sex tool...this continued until  after school. Seun knows about the relationship between John and Lola, but she kept hoping he will come back to her.

FIRST BREAK UP
After school, Seun told her elder sister Tobi about all that has been happening between him and John (their family friend son) excluding sex. Tobi reported to their mother and she told seun to cut off the relationship, that her mind is against the relationship. Seun told her beloved John about it and that was how their relationship of 5years ended...Mean while, John was still dating lola. It took Seun a year to get over John, Even after the breakup they still had several episodes of sex until Seun decided she was going to stop it.

MOVING ON WITHOUT JESUS
Seun got a job in Lagos and moved to Lagos to start a new life,a life without Christ...She started replying guys messages on facebook and meeting them just because she wanted a relationship and she was scared of being lonely...

MEETING BANJI
She met a medical doctor Banji. Banji stays in Ondo, a young, handsome  house officer in a  federal  hospital in Ondo. They started chatting for a month and it seems like they had known each other for a long period of time. Banji had a girlfriend at that time, Rukayat. Rukayat is a muslim,a year older than Banji, also a house officer in the hospital. Banji told Seun about the lady and their differences (Religion and age), he told her he was breaking up with her because his parents are not in support of their relationship. Banji confessed his love for Seun and they planned towards meeting. Seun travelled all the way from Lagos to Ondo to see Banji. They were so happy to see each other and they were together throughout that day. Banji told seun he had plans of getting married to her and that he is really happy he met her, they talked about their future together and all. They had sex that night and the relationship seem blissful. Seun travelled back the next day, she was happy that yes, she finally found the one. She told her friends about her new boyfriend and even told  her ex boyfriend John about the new relationship. Banji was always sending her money without even asking, she thought she has found the right one. (All that glitters is not gold).

THINGS GOT COMPLICATED
The relationship went on for a month and after sometime things started changing, Banji feels Seun is pressurizing him to breakup with Rukayat. Rukayat moved in with Banji, Seun started seeking for advice from her colleague at work Amaka, on how to make the Banji love her and how to handle the situation. Amaka told her to pack her stuff and stay with the Banji for a week to get to know him better. She did what amaka asked her to do. Seun packed her things and went to stay with Banji for a week. A Life changing week, A drama Filled week.

Seun stayed in Banji’s house performing house wife duty, helping with house chores and cooking for him. Everything went well until a day before Seun was supposed to leave, when Rukayat came into the house with her own spare keys and met Seun inside the house with Banji. She was really a calm young lady. She asked Banji to excuse her for 10 minutes, they went outside to talk. Seun quickly called Amaka and told her the situation of things. Banji came inside and packed his laptop and took his bag and told Seun he was coming back, he left and Seun was left alone  wondering what could have happened? Could it be that they are still dating?. She waited until she got a message from Banji telling her to leave the house now, that Rukayat's mother is coming to his place to solve the issue. Seun packed her things and left for Ibadan where her ex boyfriend stays because it was late already, She was very sad. Amaka sent an insulting message to Banji for letting Seun leave his house at that time. Banji and Amaka exchanged words.

HEART BREAK
Banji started calling Seun the nextday,she was too hurt to pick the call,so she didn’t pick the call and left it ringing. Seun got back to lagos really sick and was admitted in the hospital, she couldn’t get over the relationship of 2months, she felt used and lonely. She cried every night and almost entered depression, all thanks to her best friend and roommate in school Chidinma who stood by her.
Seun remained single for  a year and 4months before she met another guy  Olawale.

To be continued.....

Heartbreak is a term used to describe great sorrow, grief or anguish  often due to the pains and strains of love. The experience of heartbreak can be so intense that some scientists suggest it feels the same as physical pain.
It's almost like your heart is in a lot of pain. You would feel the pain really crushing your heart. That feeling isn't palatable. I want to add that heart break is not Gods will for us as singles.  He has a better plan and purpose for us. Remember he will heal you but please allow him choose the next relationship you would get into. Always remember you are made whole in him not in any relationship.

How to recover from a HEART BREAK

1. Pour out your emotions the way you can if your own exit is crying, screaming, whatever!!! give yourself time to grieve.  Grieving is a vital part of life and you don't need to bottle any emotions on the inside.

 2.  Evaluate your past relationship. Evaluate and tell yourself the real truth.  What did you do that you shouldn't have done? What are the lessons you learnt from the relationship?  Understand your role in the break up, ask yourself questions. Watch out for a particular pattern of behavior that you need to work on.  Understand your strengths and your weaknesses.

 3. Forgive. This is the part that seems to take a lot of us time to do.  Forgive the person who hurt you.  Forgive him or her.  The process of forgiveness gets easier when we realize what love is all about.  Folks, love makes us vulnerable. Vulnerable to a lot of hurt.  JUST LIKE PRINCESS ELSA, LET IT GO.......................

 4. Begin to rebuild again.  What part of your life have you neglected. Truthfully relationships can sometimes make us act like zombies. We just move and dance according to the tune of the relationship forgetting that we all have personal lives and goals. If you have ever experienced such a relationship, raise your hand high!!!!!  Am counting, I think mine should be a million hands..  Sometimes we are so emotional attached and building our world's around  these people we might forget the people so dear or things/projects that are close to our hearts.  Rebuild your relationship with God if you lost it, rebuild all that needs to be rebuilt.. You know them!!

 5. Give yourself time to heal properly.  Don't get into a rebound relationship.  This is one mistake we often make.  I remember one time I was almost robbed in a car in Abuja.. God saved me that day.  Before I got into another car I had to take my time and be double sure..  I checked with the Holy Spirit for every possible sign before I got in. I was just taking my time to make sure I don't repeat the same mistake twice.. Same with relationships. The next relationship wouldn't make you better and there are certainly no guarantees you have dropped the baggage.

 6.  Make out time for you again. It's super sweet to be single again. Enjoy the pure bliss that comes from it.  Embrace your life. Love it, make out time for yourself. Take your time, pray about everything that has happened to you.

 7.  Talk about it if you must, open up to someone you can lean on.  Can I suggest something? be sure your not leaning on the opposite sex, a break up hurts so when we get a friend to always talk to be sure they are of same sex with you.  Do you know why?  A relationship could be born out of pity.  This doesn't happen in all cases but most time it does.

Above all,  your wholeness comes from Jesus. You are made complete in him therefore the loss of a relationship wouldn't have a devastating effect on you.  Allow him lead your relationship, make him your everything and no matter who leaves or comes into your life you are assured all of them will work for your good..

What ways can you suggest one who is heart broken can heal? Please don't forget to share. Love you a

Dear Christian Single,

Once upon a time in my life I felt God didn't really care about the kind of guys I dated.  So one day, I  just met a cute guy who I thought stuck all the jelly cords in my heart(I don't even know what that means). I said yes and VA-VA-VOOM  a relationship started.

 Was I ready for that relationship? Was it a right relationship for me?

 hmm NO! I was really lonely and I wanted to have a boyfriend like every other person around me. They all seem to be living the life.  And I thought to myself, "God loves me as a daughter and is just too busy running things around the world to bother about who I date or not".

Maybe you are just like me too, or you just think who you date doesn't necessarily affect your faith or your life in general. I used to think so until 2 years after the relationship and I  was such a mess.  I was far gone from where the relationship met me. I was in dare need of a relationship with the Lord, my confidence was scattered and my self esteem was a total stranger to me.

You need to read my post about the EVANGELICAL RELATIONSHIP

Dear Christian Single, God cares about who you are friends with. He cares who you spend most of your time with. Remember, he loves you so much and whatever concerns you concerns him so much. He is a jealous lover who never wants anything that is not according to his ways take his place in your life.  You know sometimes we get to confused and frustrated in the waiting season. We might get to a point where we feel we should have done something about our single season a long time ago if he was really interested. Sometimes we rush out on our way and just pick the next available look-alike as a mate. God cares so much about your singleness, he cared about Adam's single state and he did something about it  (Genesis 2:20). Don't you know he would take care of your singleness too.

Dear Christian Single, let's listen when he asks us to walk away from that friendship or relationship, when all signs around us tells us it's time to move on. Can we just quietly obey and walk away?  No relationship or friendship is worth losing the most important relationship in your life for.  No person can do you like Jesus so if it's time to leave, we should just leave.

He is aware of all the little details in your life, he knows you feel alone sometimes and need a mate. He even says it everyday (Isaiah 34:16) He knows you need people around you and he is intentional about every situation he allows into your life. Sweetheart, can you hold on just a little longer? Can you please not rush into that relationship decision you know isn't Gods plan for you? Remember, what you compromised to have you will eventually loose!! This is a call and a plea from me. Hold on!  Be strong! God has the best things coming for you.

Gabby loves you so much too..

1Corithians 13:8(NIV) Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.