I will call today FLASH BACK SATURDAY.  This was one of my first post ever on this blog.  I wrote this post still unsure if i could blog . I am happy i have come this far.  Enjoy my dear friends.

This a continuation of my previous post if you missed it click here

Proverbs 31:14- She is like a merchant ship loaded with food stuffs; she brings her household’s food from a far country.


By a woman’s nature she is creative and also multitasking, a woman has the ability to have her hands full and still perform effectively in all. This wonderful creation called "WOMAN" is a wonder to behold. Have you ever thought about what makes a women irresitible; such a woman that does not sit on her back and watch things to happen as life just passes by. This woman makes the most of her life, she is not just waiting for people to come save her but she is ready to save others. This kind of woman is full of loads of marketable commodities, she is consistently on the move, she sort for commodities in faraway lands and bring them back home. Hello, this woman makes things happen! YOUR MAN MUST NOT PROVIDE EVERYTHING.

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Proverbs 31:13: She seeks out wool and flax and works with willing hands [to develop it].


An irresistible woman is a woman of strenght and skills, she can develop nothing to something. We live in a world today where women find it hard to maximize their potentials, some are either living the dream of their parents or the dreams of their spouses, then later in life force their innocent kids to live their own dreams. Then her kids grow up to live her dreams and not theirs and her kids force their own kids to live their own unfulfilled dreams and the cycle goes on and on like that. Then they creat generations of unfulfilled people forcing others to live their dreams. An irresistible woman is a woman with the capacity to maximize her potentials. Maximizing ones potentials, is usually a long journey that starts by taking little little steps. Those little steps are usually the most difficult things for various women to do, what so ever dream you want to fulfil why not start where you are. Just start with the little you have, why wait till you have everything, you might also be scared to fail. failure is never a death sentence when you fall you always rise up stronger and better. When you fail at something you always do it better the next time. JUST DARE IT. Like the scripture above, this kind of woman is able to work hard to be what she wants to be and also make things around her better. She is willing to work.

Willingness to work ke! how many of us are willing to work hard to build up a career we love, how many of us will be willing to develop things from the scratch. SCRATCH KE!!! So many of us women depend so much on LE BOO or parents for even the air we breath. Ok, this might not be you, you are a hard working woman, you foot your bill, you have a successful career but you find it hard to find a balance. A strong woman is able to be sucessful and also work hard to find a balance, though the BALANCE part is often times difficult. Most times we are so lost in FEMINISIM that we become selfish and love less. An irresistible woman is a woman who develops not just her career but every thing around her. The people around you should have one thing or the other they learn from you everyday, we women are often time in the pursuit for perfect things, perfect relationship, perfect man, perfect career we just want everything PERFECT and we ignore the fact that perfection comes with hard work. Are we willing to work our hard tirelessly to gain our goal of ALL THINGS PERFECT!!


This kind of woman is resourceful, she is creative. The truth is a lot of women are not themselves, they love living out a script that has been written by others for them. Others I mean are not just your friends, how about TELENUNDO, E!, AFRICAN MAGIC, CELEBRITIES, FASHION SHOWS, MUSIC VIDEOS the list goes on and on . We try so hard, work tirelessly to be like those people our IDOLS!! You know yours...Why try so hard to be like someone else when you can build your own personality. WOMEN with FAKE ACCENTS, FAKE BOOBS, FAKE BUTTS, everything about you is just screaming out loud Fake! Fake!!Fake!!!. and you want a real man HABA!! It is a very terrible thing to live in some's shadow. A woman who is creative can turn little things around her into something great. The most annoying one is this BRITISH ACCENT flying round, OK! we know you went for summer we saw all the pictures on your instagram page, CONGRATULATIONS!!! but why will you come back from a one month summer with a british accent,HABA sister!! If accents change so easily then all the Igbos living in Lagos Nigeria will have yoruba accent. lllloolll



Trying so hard to fit into the norm is never a great quality, you are just existing and never living. Lets all learn to live our lives, work hard to build that which is your vision or your goal or aspiration. Dont apologize for being successful,be successful and you will be so irresistible. The road to success is never easy it is always full of twists and thorns.
Life is never a bed of Roses because Roses have thorns

Maximize your potentials so you do not marry out of financial needs or even if you are married so that you can be a helper that God has created you to be. Men do not need women who will see them as a life line they will go out of their way to avoid a woman with financial baggage that brings nothing to add. Take care of your self financially.

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A truly good woman is a wife before she is married. You need to inbred this, praying or fasting cannot make you one.
The criteria for becoming a wife or irresistible are very specific. For secret #1 click HERE. This is another:

Secret 2
She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her. Pro. 31:12

One of the secrets of this woman is that she is a comforter. Sometimes giving comfort to people might sound like a huge task and infact it is most especially when you have your own issues or problems to face. This kind of woman makes sure that she give people around her comfort, she is consistently a comforter. To become an irresistible woman make it a point of duty to make people around you comfortable, this does not necessarily mean having to give them all they need. Make it a point of duty that your words always have a positive impact upon the lives of your loved ones and friends

We women are talkers, i mean every woman wants to be heard!!! That's what makes us who we are, if you are a man reading this post always listen to your woman!!!

We love to be heard, we want people to listen to us always. Men you need to accept this difference. When faced with problems, Men feel better by solving problems while women feel better by talking about problems.

For instance:
Man comes home, wants to watch news and relax. He is stressed out and just wants to forget this unsolved problems.
Woman wants to relax from her stressful day, she wants to find relief by talking about her problems.
Man thinks Woman talks too much, Woman feels Man is ignoring her. Wahala starts!!

When men and women are able to respect their differences then love has a chance to blossom Women are talkers, kindly listen. We women sometimes want to share our feelings about our day and want you to listen that's all!!. Now this wonderful quality can be an evil one when it is not properly used. You need to make it a point of duty that you speak positive words into peoples lives most especially your _man_. Men are thinkers and whether you like it or not your man think about words that proceeds out of your mouth. Even when a man has made a huge mistake he will still want to be encouraged. Most of us are living with the consequences of our words, many of us have said things that bruised our partners and has changed the tenor of our relationships. A woman needs to understand the effect of her words on the self-esteem of her man. The Bible teaches us that the power of life and death is in the tongue


_James 3:5-6 Even so the tongue is a little member, and it can boast of great things. See how much wood or how great a forest a tiny spark can set ablaze!
And the tongue is a fire. [The tongue is a] world of wickedness set among our members, contaminating and depraving the whole body and setting on fire the wheel of birth (the cycle of man's nature), being itself ignited by hell._

Your words can exalt or demolish him. A man will fly away if possible from contention but draw strength from the woman who encourages and affirms him. Your words shapes your life, words are so powerful they can be an agents of mass destruction. To be irresistible you need to watch your words sister , talk less most especially when you are angry!! Say only important things and you don't need to talk every time.

An irresistible woman keeps on doing good. We live in a wicked world and some people are just ungrateful, no matter how much good you do for them they will never change.. That should not change who you are!!! Keep doing good, it is difficult to do good to those who have hurt you but keep on doing good. You could be filled with vengeance and hatred because of the events of the past, people might have trampled on your right, yours could have been rape, or yours could be painful loss.. Allow your past to remain in the past. Broken women find it extremely difficult to maintain healthy relationships. They are always looking for men who will carry their pain for them. The only man attracted to carrying other peoples pain is JESUS!!!.No man wants problems in his life, every man wants a problem solver.

dont be filled with the darkness of yesterday, and refuse to see the light of today

Everyday is a new opportunity, to start afresh. People around you should not pay for the evil others have done. Don't treat the man in your life like he is the criminal or the rapist. Let the good in you not be conditional, it should not be based on the way you are treated. An irresistible woman forgives, she lets go, she allows JESUS to fix her..be forgiving and see how your life turns out, keep doing good and keep being you.

Thank you for stopping by.. Click here for SECRET #3

This post is all about sharing tips of how to become an irresistible woman from the biblical point of view.
Some of us might be wondering what it takes to be irresistible as a young Christian lady.

Will share a story with us. Its the story of a king called Lemuel in the Bible, (Proverbs 31:1) his mother advised him on how to become a better king to his people. One strong advice his mother gave him was how to recognize  and find a virtuous woman. As a king it was important he married a woman who will help him in ruling his people well.
The story of this virtuous woman has been with us for a long while now. It has been the topic in so many seminars, several books have been written about this  same woman. She is the kind of woman that every man desires. This qualities has made her irresistible, generations to come will still be talking about her. She is a woman we all want to be like even me my self i pray to God to make me just like her, but i discovered that her qualities will not fall like ripe cherries upon you. They are to be studied and applied into our daily lives.
Back to the main matter, lets find out her secrets.

               Secret 1
Proverbs 31:11 (Amp) The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.

Trust: This woman does not have trust issues. People can trust her because she is true to her words. Hmmmm, trust!!! This is a word that is fast fading even in our Christian society. We as young women need to understand that trust is the one thing that when it is missing in our lives we will have a hard time in so many areas.
Can your words be trusted? When you say yes does it really mean yes. When you say something can you make sure that you remain so true to your words. If your not sure that you will keep to your words kindly do not make any promise you cannot keep.
  A typical example is when you have an appointment with someone.The person will be at the place of meeting and you have not even started dressing up for the appointment. When the person calls you will  be like am on my way..Haba!!! Its not cool at all, and for almost 2 hours you are still on your way. I know some people can relate to this most especially some of my friends llllooolllzzzz. I dread it when they say they are on their way because my waiting has just begun.

No matter how little the issue of saying the truth at all times or in difficult situations is, it is a strong foundation for trust. Gradually people will begin to trust you even in worst situatuons. To be an irresistible woman in this generation, people need to trust you most especially your man. Don't be unstable, make a decision to be firm in all that you are doing.

Can you be trusted with money?. This one is a big issue because money can buy you a lot of nice stuff winks. When people entrust you with their money will you spend it like it is totally yours. Honestly, money issues is a great cause for conflicts in our society today, most especially in marriage. So many of us women cannot even save up money to  make any investment, ok its your money you can spend it. What about other people's money?
  When you are given money to cook soup will you cook the soup with the money or you use half to cook soup and the remaining half to buy clothes. A lot of women are guilty of this. Some men can never make the mistake to even tell their woman the amount in their account because Oh boy!! Your money will be spent on weaves. There are some of my friends i can entrust with money no matter how much because i know they will provide it when it is needed.

Learn how to spend only your own money. Use it for what you have been asked to use it for because over time you will be trusted with so much more.

Trust is developed in relationships, your dependability will make your man so sure and confident in you. Learn to work on yourself if you have realised that people have doubts about you. Learn to speak the truth at all times. If your not good at keeping your mans money or at spending appropriately kindly seek for help through prayers and practical steps you will surely overcome.

This is going to be a series, every issue needs to be dealt with appropriately. Click here for Secret #2 Thank you so much for stopping by. Hope you were blessed because i was..

This a continuation of my previous post if you missed it click here.



5. Define your relationship: It is a common thing for guys to walk up to girls and express their desire to be with the other. Ask them this question 'to be with me as what? Some of them will start doing merry-go-round with English. My dear, its important that the purpose of a relationship is said from the very beginning. At least if you both are playing with yourselves it will be defined, if you are going somewhere definite like getting married, good for you. An undefined relationship is a big root cause of heartbreak. I have seen issues with ladies who have been in relationships for years just for Le Boo to wake up one morning to say 'we were just dating after all i never promised you marriage'. Sorry love such is life, you will be wiser, next time i promise you.

6. Give your heart to God first: The most important thing to do in life is to give your life and all to God. When you realize the depth of love that God has for you His love will be all that matters to you. When you have understood the kind of love that God has for you, it will be easier for you to notice fake love or lust. Gods love is all about action, He loved us and He gave His only posession. Love is not all about emotions and words, its about actions and its an investment. Ok let me stop here. Will write a post on Gods kind of love soon.
 
7. Love yourself: So many of us do not even know ourselves talk more of loving us. One of the most difficult question for most people to answer is ' who are you'? You will sometimes hear people answering like, this ' my name is so and so' . This question is not about knowing your name, we want to know the you in you *does that make sense* . What is your perception about yourself. If you were able to answer that question with confidence then congratulations!!!
  Its important you know who you are and also love yourself. It is bad that you cannot even do things for yourself you rely on your partner for everything. Ladies, Le Boo must not buy you everything, buy things for yourself, treat yourself right nah. Its not a hard thing to spend quality time with yourself and when a man treats you less it will be easy to walk away. Embrace yourself tell your self every reason why you should be treated right.
Stop complaining about everything your weight, your color, your height etc, love yourself for who you are. The worlds view about Mr or Mrs Perfect shape, colour or figure is constantly changing. Just make sure you take care of yourself.

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*birthday girl*
I have every reason to be grateful to God today. Am a year older, God is faithful. Am glad because a lot has changed about me. Am learning everyday and am getting better.